Posts by dazed but not confused

Lots of good advice. Take a break. I think you are more liked here than you realize. Everyone here can be a pain in the ass from time to time. I’ve struggled, but learned to ignore what/who I don’t like. I’m sure it goes both ways with me and my posts. Don’t go for good, just take a break. Best of luck.

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im turning in my letter friday,

by unstopableravens in

dazed but not confused

While I agree with Calebs Airplane, you must do what’s right for your situation. I think if forced, I would turn in a letter if they try to set up a JC meeting. I don’t agree with giving them any acknowledgement of power but if forced, I would want to go out on my terms.

On the other hand I may just ignore them and get Df’d. Either way it’s essentially the same result. I’m a little surprised it hasn’t happened yet because we aren’t hiding the fact that we are now celebrating holidays.

Good luck. Let us know how it works out.

P.S. GO BRONCOS!

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Anyone Celebrating Halloween this Year???

by cognac in

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i started yesterday.

took the kids (they were both princesses) and my nephew to 3 different events.

got tons of candy and the kids had a blast.. .

dazed but not confused

Last Halloween was the first ever holiday my son and I celebrated. This Halloween will be the first holiday the whole family celebrates together.We did a little decorating. Not much but it’s a start. We will be decorating for Christmas this year too. We got most of the kids shopping done already.

Seeing the joy on my kids faces makes me happy and sad; happy they will enjoy everything that comes with child hood, sad because I see what I really missed out on as a child.

P.S. SFPW – Theocratic Seduction – Go s*it somewhere else.

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it's my birthday too!

by losingit in

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36 years young :-) .

celebrating for the first time in more than ten years.

birthday cake for breakfast with my girls.

dazed but not confused

Happy Birthday

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Do You Think Many Engaged JW Couples Fooled Around B4 Marriage?

by minimus in

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when i was an elder, i had a few couples approach me to confess that they either played around or went all the way.. i suspect there were many more that did not admit to it, though..

dazed but not confused

Guilty

We didn't get married in the hall but I had an elder, whom I knew my whole life, do the ceremony. He pulled me aside a couple hours before and asked if we did anything to prevent us from having the wedding in the hall. The answer was yes, I told him "No".

I felt it was none of their damn business.

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Did having kids make your decision to leave easier or harder?

by Comatose in

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i was thinking about a few things confusedandalone said the other day.

i mirrored his thinking identically.

for me it was having kids that made my decision to leave an easier one.. if i had no children, i might still be in and just going through the motions.

dazed but not confused

Easier for me. They were young. Actually, my last meeting was about 12 weeks into my wife’s 2 nd pregnancy. My son was almost 3. If they were older, pre-teen or teenagers, I imagine it would have been much harder. By then (teenage years) they would have had much stronger friendships making it harder to sever relationships. Mrs. Dazed said it was easier for her too.

When I left, I knew I couldn’t fake it any longer. I never imagined leaving the “truth” would mean loosing my wife or kids. I left before coming to this site where I read horror stories of families falling apart when one spouse left without the other.

I have overcome the, hopefully!, last obstacle in my fade / leaving – which is keeping a good relationship with my uber dub mom and sister. They know I left. They are sad about it, but so far, they are willing to keep a relationship with me as long as I don’t rub non religious things in their faces. I block them from seeing happy moments like holiday celebrations and birthdays. Their loss.

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The reason behind why the ex-JW community can never match Jehovah's Witnesses' success.

by Stand for Pure Worship in

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an average of five kingdom halls being constructed daily, almost 8 million brothers and sisters, dissemination of bible literature in 595 languages, 111,795 congregations worldwide, distribution of 179 million bibles available in 116 languages, 239 countries where jehovah's witnesses have a presence, etc.. need i go on?.

on the other hand........... crisis of conscience, freeminds, the awaa, jw.net, ummmmmm........hmmm........idk six screens or something?

not exactly working out for you guys.